Step 1 of 2 50% Build your own Behavior Plan Make a plan to use the three strategies you learned about to increase cooperation and decrease anger outbursts and defiance. Parents are usually most successful when they combine warm attention, structured rewards, and consequences together. However, it can be helpful to start with one strategy and then add others as you go along. Start simple. Select two or three items from any list at first. Once you are successful with a simple plan, come back again to add more items to your plan. Step 1: Increasing Warm AttentionThings Parents Can DoWhen life is stressful, it can feel like all we do is argue. Here are some strategies that parents can use to replace arguing with warmth and fun activities. This is the first step to helping kids and parents feel like staying calm and cooperating. Select the parent actions you want to add to your plan. Nothing new right now, we might add something later Set aside 15 minutes a day to play and have fun with each child Schedule a specific time to play and have fun at this time (______) on these days (_________) Show affection and have fun Stay calm when frustrated Don’t repeat commands - instead remind kids of the consequences for not listening Catch kid(s) being good and immediately praise the good behavior Set kid(s) up for success by asking one thing at a time Be very clear exactly what kid(s) need to do to be successful Ignore arguing and whining that is done to get attention Other: Other Things Parent Can Do* Step 2: Fun Rewards for Good BehaviorThings Kids Can Do*When routines are disrupted and everyone feels upset, it can be harder to remember and follow the rules of good behavior. Here are some things that kids can do to make life easier at home by staying calm and being cooperative. Select the child actions you would like to add to your plan. Later you can write in the number of points that kids get for being successful. Nothing new right now, we might add something later Do what’s asked the first time (= __ points) Accept “no” calmly (= __ points) Be respectful (= __ points) Start school work without delay (= __ points) Complete schoolwork (= __ points) Work quietly (= __ points) Handle frustration calmly (= __ points) Use words to solve problem (= __ points) Let other kids choose the game (= __ points) Play carefully with toys (= __ points) Use nice words (= __ points) Give compliments and says nice things (= __ points) Act pleasant and cheerful (= __ points) Wait for one’s turn (= __ points) Eat what is prepared (= __ points) Take responsibility (= __ points) Do things on time (= __ points) Use strategies to remain calm (= __ points) Take medication (= __ points) Cooperate with medical staff (= __ points) Other: Other Things Kids Can Do* Rewards for Good BehaviorBeing cooperative and staying calm can be hard work. Make a list of fun prizes or activities that kids can earn through good behavior. Later you can write in how many points each reward costs. Nothing new right now, we might add something later Extra Desert (costs __ points) Play a game (costs __ points) Pick a prize from the box (costs __ points) New toy (costs __ points) Extra 15 minutes of screen time (costs __ points) Video chat with friends (costs __ points) Choose what is for dinner (costs __ points) Money ( __ costs __ points) Watch a movie (costs __ points) Not have to do a chore (costs __ points) Other: Other Rewards* Step 3: Calm Consequences for MisbehaviorConsequences for Misbehavior*Even with a great plan for what parents and kids can do to get along, there will be times when kids lose their temper or don’t listen. Parents need to respond with a consequence that teaches kids to make better choices, while staying calm and not makes things worse by yelling and getting angry. Select the parent actions you want to add to your plan. Nothing new right now, we might add something later Time-Out until quiet and willing to do what was asked Cool down in room until calm and willing to do what was asked Loss of electronics or screen time Extra chore Loss of phone Loss of computer/video games Loss of time with friends Other Other Consequences* You can print our your behavior plan on the next page. Review and Download Your Behavior Plan Our Behavior Plan This is our plan to listen, cooperate, stay calm, and get along together. What Parents Will Do To replace arguing with warmth and fun activities, parents will: . What Kids Will Do To make life easier at home by staying calm and being cooperative, kids will: . These are the fun things kids can earn for staying calm and being cooperative: . Consequences for Misbehavior The following consequences for misbehavior will be delivered quickly and calmly after one warning: . If this plan is not enough to improve cooperation we will revise our plan or contact our doctor, therapist, or counselor. HiddenScreenshot File NameEdit the "Default Value" field on the "Advanced" tab. Download Worksheet Download Worksheet
